Empathetic Parenting: Breaking the Cycle

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Becoming a parent often brings back memories of our own childhood. I grew up in an authoritarian home, obedience was expected without question and emotions were rarely discussed. Today, I’m choosing Empathetic Parenting to break that cycle. It isn’t always easy, but I want my children to feel heard, loved, and respected in ways I didn’t always experience.

Empathetic Parenting: Breaking the Cycle in Practice

I’m moving away from an authoritarian approach and towards an authoritative, empathetic style. That means self-reflection, modelling accountability, and keeping firm but kind boundaries.

Here’s what that looks like for us:

Apologising to my child

As a child, I can’t remember an adult apologising to me. Now, when I get it wrong—raise my voice, misunderstand, overreact, I say sorry. It shows that adults make mistakes too and builds trust by modelling accountability.

Explaining my emotions and reactions

Instead of expecting my child to guess why I’m upset, I explain the feeling and the trigger. He learns it’s not “his fault,” gains language for emotions, and feels safer to share what he’s feeling.

Leading by example

If I ask him to tidy up, I do the same. Consistency matters. It shows that expectations apply to everyone and creates fairness and mutual respect at home.

Balancing toughness with kindness

I’m still a structured parent because the world can be tough, but I balance firmness and warmth. Clear limits, predictable routines, hugs, and encouragement help him feel secure while building resilience.

Showing affection and expressing love

I say “I love you” often and back it up with hugs, smiles, and kind words. This daily reassurance supports self-worth and emotional security.

Encouraging emotional expression

Growing up, crying or “big feelings” were discouraged. With my child, it’s different. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to talk, and all feelings are allowed. We name feelings and practise simple regulation tools together.

Breaking the cycle of unheard children

My goal is to end the pattern of children feeling unseen. I want my child to know his feelings are valid, love is unconditional, and home is a safe space to speak. Choosing Empathetic Parenting is a deliberate decision that I believe will foster a stronger, healthier connection.

Why authoritative (not authoritarian) parenting helps

Research consistently links an authoritative style characterised by warmth and structure to better emotional well-being, higher self-esteem, and stronger social skills. Respectful communication, clear boundaries, and secure relationships give children the confidence to navigate the world with empathy.

A message to fellow parents

If you’re rethinking how you were raised, you’re not alone. It’s okay to learn as you go, make repairs, and choose a new path. Be intentional, be open, and grow alongside your children. Together we can break the cycle and build a legacy of love, empathy, and understanding.

In the spirit of the Bold Kids motto, “Bold Kids Unite! To save the day!” we, as parents, can unite to raise bold, emotionally resilient children who know they are valued and heard.